Even the most powerful outfit can't make burnout look good. You'll never feel powerful if you don't take time for yourself, to rebuild your strength and honor all you do. The definition of self-care is different for each person. But on a fundamental level, the first step toward self-care for anyone is acknowledging that you … Continue reading Self-Care for Attorneys

As an attorney, you've chosen one of the most stressful professions. You have superiors and clients scrutinizing your every move. Opposing counsel is just waiting for you to misstep. Worse than all of them is your harshest critic: you. Most of us have no trouble comforting a friend in need. We readily offer  a kind … Continue reading Valentines Day: Try Some Self Compassion

Tamara Belinfanti was a Harvard law student when she bought her first "real" suit. As she describes it in her Vogue article, it was well-made, and it fit perfectly.  For her, this suit screamed "I belong here." It made her believe she was a law student who would achieve the dream: the high-paying job at … Continue reading How to Feel Like a Lawyer

I didn't realize what had just happened until I was out of the room. I had been sitting in a small conference room with a new client. I was explaining the process for his case and laid out the type of information he could provide to support his argument. Then, out of the blue, "You're … Continue reading Should I dress to avoid gross comments?

It's always the little things. For mediation last week, I wanted to feel powerful. I knew our legal arguments and our client's settlement position. I needed the right outfit so I could focus on fighting back the Imposter. I chose a white sheath dress with a peplum waist, a brown leather belt to accent my … Continue reading How do I prevent distracting issues with my outfit?

  In combating Imposter Syndrome, the right outfit will help you find your confidence or, at the very least, not sabotage it. But clothes can't do all the heavy lifting. You'll also need to shift your perspective. A few days ago, we held a video call with the attorneys who will be serving as mediators … Continue reading How do I fight off Imposter Syndrome?

Style sends both inward and outward messages. To the world, the message is what we want to convey, whether we do so intentionally or not. Inwardly, the message we send to ourselves is how we should feel about the particular situation we're in. Should I feel confident about being here? Should I feel unsure of … Continue reading How do my clothes influence my mindset?

There is infinite information available to women on how to make themselves look more attractive. You'll find an unlimited number of tutorials on YouTube for make-up, hairstyles, and dressing to make your ex jealous on New Year's Eve. We've been conditioned to find ways to look slimmer and taller and to feign having bigger lips. … Continue reading Can my outfit make me feel more powerful?

If you think it's silly as a professional woman to talk about and spend time on your style, what you wear, and how you look, you're not alone. But I think we've been wrong about that. After I've done the work to prepare for a hearing or trial, I'm embarrassed to think about what I'm … Continue reading Should I care about what I wear to court?